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Choose life

Dear all,
Greetings in the mighty name of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. Please find the notes from Ray as the attachment.
When tempted, no one should say, “God is tempting me.” For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does he tempt anyone; but each person is tempted when they are dragged away by their own evil desire and enticed. Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death. James 1:13-15 (NIV)
Thought: Choose life! Please God always! Pray for discernment and wisdom to make the correct choices. Remember, desire leads to deception. Deception leads to lust. Lust conceives plans to disobey. A disobedient person will end up in the lake of fire.
Memorize: Obedience is the way of true blessings!
Have a Victorious walk in Christ
The Journey Team

Aroma of Christ

Dear all,
May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit. Romans 15:13
Aroma of Christ Jesus:
Word: Thanks be to God, who always leads us as captives in Christ’s triumphal procession and uses us to spread the aroma of the knowledge of him everywhere. II Corinthians 2: 14
Thought: Life does have a sweet fragrance – remember the sweetness of a rose. How much more is “the fragrance of Christ Jesus”. Believers recognize the life giving fragrance of the message.
Proclaiming the King of Kings – Christ Jesus Wherever He Leads us!

Rich toward God

Be strong in the Lord and His mighty power. Ephesians 6: 10




Are you rich toward God?

Reexamine your commitment to Christ Jesus! Put God first and His Holy Spirit is able to provide our deepest needs, His resources are infinite. When God’s word comes to you make plans to put into practice.

Reorder our priorities in accordance with Gods will.

Spiritual Blessings In Christ Jesus

Dear all,
Greetings in the mighty name of our LORD and Savior Jesus Christ.


You crown the year with your bounty, and your carts overflow with abundance. The grasslands of the desert overflow; the hills are clothed with gladness. The meadows are covered with flocks and the valleys are mantled with grain; they shout for joy and sing. Psalms 65: 11-13

Spiritual Blessings In Christ Jesus

Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us in the heavenly realms with every spiritual blessing in Christ. For he chose us in him before the creation of the world to be holy and blameless in his sight. In love he predestined us to be adopted as his sons through Jesus Christ, in accordance with his pleasure and will- to the praise of his glorious grace, which he has freely given us in the One he loves. In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches of God’s grace that he lavished on us with all wisdom and understanding. Ephesians 1: 3-8

Have a Victorious walk in Christ Jesus

Stand firm in Christ

The Journey Team



Peace be with you

Dear all,

Greetings in the name of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. Let us praise our Lord and forget not all His benefits. His grace is new every day.

Word: Jesus appears to Thomas – John 20: 26-29 – A week later his disciples were in the house again, and Thomas was with them. Though the doors were locked, Jesus came and stood among them and said, “Peace be with you!” Then he said to Thomas, “Put your finger here; see my hands. Reach out your hand and put it into my side. Stop doubting and believe.” Thomas said to him, “My Lord and my God!” Then Jesus told him, “Because you have seen me, you have believed; blessed are those who have not seen and yet have believed.”

Thought: In the hands of Jesus there is certainty! There is providence! There is majesty! The hands of Jesus are saving hands. The Bible describes every type of sin but declares that the Lord delivers from them all. His saving hands are secure hands. Of all who come to Him He said, “I will give them eternal life, and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand”. The hands of Jesus are able to hold secure for time and eternity all that we commit to Him. – Adapted from Streams in the desert, Mrs. Charles Cowman, Forty-first printing, September 1982.

Be strong and glad!

Stand firm in Christ

The Journey Team




The Heart of Marriage

Dennis & Jill Eenigenburg




A. Husbands and wives need to humbly serve each other. Philippians 2:5-8

B. Husbands and wives need to demonstrate sacrificial love. Ephesians 5:2

C. Husbands and wives need to be committed to unity. John 17:22-23

D. Husbands and wives need be willing to suffer without sinning. I Peter 2:19-20


A. Wives are called to influence their husbands through their Godliness. I Peter 3:1-6

• The wife’s godliness is expressed through submission to her husband’s God give headship in the marriage.

• The wife’s godliness is expressed without words.

• The wife’s godliness is expressed with deeds.

B. Husbands are called to influence their wives through their graciousness. I Peter 3:7

• The husband demonstrates graciousness by being a good student of his wife’s needs.

• The husband demonstrates graciousness by being sensitive to her limitations.

• The husband demonstrates graciousness by honoring her as his spiritual sister.

C. Husbands and wives are called to “out grace” each other. I Peter 3:8-9

1. To sum up husbands and wives “let all be harmonious.”

Harmony is not uniformity. Harmony is produced by complimentary differences. Diferent sounds in music are combined in a way to produce harmony. When a husband and wife both “sing from the Divine music of God’s Word,” they produce harmony with their different strengths and weaknesses in marriage.

2. To sum up husbands and wives, “let all be sympathetic.”

Sympathy is being touched by the feeling of another person. To enter into their joy and sorrow produces emotional support and closeness. Romans 12:15

3. To sum up husband and wives, “let all be brotherly.”

Husbands and wives are to exhibit a family love. Family celebrates the oneness we have with a common Father, a common Lord and a common Life. No longer do we speak of yours and mine. We speak of ours.

Our bond is such that all we have is available for the wellbeing of our spouse. We share one another’s burdens and seek to make the others load lighter.

4. To sum up husbands and wives, “let all be kindhearted.”

Unconfessed sin leads to hardheartedness. The Spirit-filled heart is compassionate and sensitive to the needs of one’s spouse. Caring and sharing are expressions of kindheartedness.

5. To sum up husbands and wives, “let all be humble in spirit.”

Humility is a proper estimation of our inability to do anything worthwhile apart from God’s provision and strength. Pride and self-confidence always result in failure. Humility allows us to tolerate the shortcomings of others, as we are aware of our own.


A. Grace-filled marriages never return “evil for evil” nor “insult for insult.”

B. Grace-filled marriages always give a blessing in return for evil or insult.

“Blessings” are verbal or concrete acts of kindness.

C. Grace-filled marriages enjoy God’s blessings.

D. Grace-filled marriages pass on God’s blessings to each other and others. I Peter 3:10-12

Those who wish to “love life” live the “grace-filled” life by:

• Refusing to speak evil against others

• Turning from evil deed to do good

• Seeking peace with others

Those who live the grace-filled life are rewarded by God.

• God’s eyes are on you

• God’s ears hear you.



1. In what ways does your marriage fall short of a “grace-based” marriage?

2. In what ways does your marriage reflect a “grace-based” marriage?

3. How do you treat your spouse?

Rate your treatment of your spouse:

1= Almost Never, 2 = Sometimes, 3 = Usually, 4 = Almost Always

___ Harmonious

___ Sympathetic

___ Brotherly

___ Kindhearted

___ Humble in spirit

3. How can you return a blessing the next time you feel hurt or disappointed with your spouse?

Heart of Marriage – Week 2


The Heart of Marriage

Dennis & Jill Eenigenburg



Couples who fail to address and resolve life’s problems by obeying God’s Word will lack oneness in their relationship with God, each other and their children.



Oneness and marriage is disrupted by selfishness. Selfishness is a focused on pleasing self while ignoring God’s will and the wellbeing of others. Couples seeking oneness will need to honestly acknowledge the temptation to selfishness and embrace God’s solution to conquer this marital pothole.


The environment in which we live out our marriages is hostile not friendly. The word “world” in scripture refers to the earth’s fallen culture ruled by the “Prince of the power of the air” and dominated by evil. The pleasures of the “world” are strong temptations for our affections. If we willfully yield to these temptations we can become ensnared in behaviors, habits and addictions that divert our hearts from God and our spouse.


Suffering comes from various sources: natural, supernatural and Divine. Natural suffering comes to us because all creation is under the curse of man’s sin. We are vulnerable to diseases, injury and aging. All of these carry with them a degree of pain and suffering. We also have suffering from the supernatural realm of the Devil and His Demons.


In many ways the greatest threat to our spiritual integrity is not poverty but prosperity. The prosperity experienced in Western Civilizations has resulted in many turning to a totally secular life style. Prosperity gives one the impression that God is not needed in one’s life. Prosperity out of balance can also lead husbands and wives to growing independence from each other. Financial independence can make divorce a more attractive option for couples struggling with conflict.

Prosperity in balance is not evil. Those who see their wealth or positions of influence as gifts from God to be used for the Kingdom are blessed. Couples seeking oneness with God and each other will need to Christ honoring stewards of any success they may experience.


Couples seeking oneness with God and oneness with their spouse will need to abstain from immorality.


Short-term Separation: For many couples, separation for 10-12 hours a day is a requirement of their employment. In some cases this has led to temptations, attraction and even extra marital affairs. Business travel also presents a unique set of circumstances in which temptations must be faced.

Long-term Separation: Long-term separation is often necessitated by employment in other parts of one’s own country or in other countries. Long-term separation requires a plan to communicate long distances and to order one’s life in a way that honors God and one’s marriage vows.

Couples who want to grow in their oneness with God and each other must not let short or long- term separation lead to unfaithfulness or abandonment


As believers, we are called the bride of Christ. Jesus is our spiritual husband. Our faith in him has established our betrothal to him. But we are presently separated from his presence. He is away preparing a place for us. But while he is away he continues to love us by praying for us and sending us love letters (Scriptures). He motivates us to be faithful in this period of separation by anticipating the joy of our reunion, ultimate consummation and fellowship forever in His Father’s house.


Every married couple will be required to administrate their assets. Some will manage $500.00 per year, others $500,000 per year. Regardless of the amount, there are basically three things we can do with assets: save, spend or give. While most couples agree on these three options there can be disruptive differences on the proportion allotted to each area. Couples who want to promote oneness with God and each other must apply biblical principles to their management of their assets.


What other “potholes” in road of life might negatively impact the alignment of your marital oneness?

List here:




How have these “potholes” negatively impacted your marriage?

Degrees of Negative Impact: 1-None, 2- Sometimes, 3-Frequently, 4-Greatly

Selfishness ____

Society ____

Suffering ____

Success ____

Sex ____

Separation ____

Spending ____